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What to do if…
a driver or passenger is asking intrusive questions and you feel unsafe

Produced and maintained by PanicStation.org Published: Last reviewed: Editorial policy USA guide

Short answer

Stop volunteering personal details. If it is safe, contact a trusted person and end the ride or interaction at a busy, staffed place. Call 911 if you believe you are in immediate danger.

Do not do these things

  • Do not volunteer extra details about your address, household, workplace, routine, or plans.
  • Do not give out your phone number, hand over your phone, or open your social media accounts for the other person.
  • Do not agree to an unscheduled detour or a quieter stop unless it is needed to reach a safer place.
  • Do not argue or insult the person if a calm exit is safer.
  • Do not get out of a moving vehicle or choose an isolated place just to end the conversation.

What to do now

  1. Set a simple boundary once.
    Say: “I don’t share personal information.” You do not need to explain or keep answering.

  2. Check whether you need emergency help.
    If you believe you are in immediate danger, call 911 if you can. If you cannot safely make a voice call, you can try texting 911. Text-to-911 is not available everywhere. If it is unavailable, you should receive a bounce-back message. Start with your location and what is happening, then answer the call-taker’s questions.

  3. Contact a trusted person if it is safe.
    Send a brief message, share your live location if available, or share your ride details through the app if available. Keep the message simple.

  4. Choose a safer stopping place.
    If you are riding, ask to end the ride at a busy, staffed, well-lit place if it is safe to do so. If you are driving, pull over only where it is safe and legal to stop. Do not get out of a moving vehicle.

  5. Look for in-app safety options if available.
    Use ride-detail sharing, safety, help, or emergency options if they are available and safe to use. Keep any necessary communication in the app rather than exchanging personal contact details.

  6. If this is happening on public transit, create distance if you can.
    Move toward other people or the operator area if it is safe. Use an onboard help option if one is available. Consider getting off at a staffed stop if that is the safer option.

  7. After you leave the vehicle or transit service, stay somewhere public for a moment.
    Go inside a staffed business or remain near other people while you decide how to continue your journey.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide immediately whether to report the interaction or make a complaint.
  • You can save trip details, screenshots, times, locations, and a brief note later.
  • You do not need to decide whether the other person intended harm before choosing a safer option.

Important reassurance

You are allowed to stop answering personal questions and change your plans. You do not need to justify leaving early, moving closer to other people, or asking for help.

Scope note

These are first steps to end the interaction and buy time. Later decisions, such as reporting the incident, contacting a platform or transit agency, or seeking specialist support, can be made when you are somewhere safer.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, financial, therapeutic, or other professional advice. If you believe you are in immediate danger, prioritize reaching a safer place and contacting emergency services.

Additional Resources

Closely connected guides that may be useful during the same situation or its immediate aftermath.

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