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What to do if…
a stranger in a public venue asks you to go to a private area and you feel uneasy

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Short answer

Do not go with them. Stay in the public area, move to a staffed spot, and call 911 if you are in immediate danger.

Do not do these things

  • Do not follow them into a back room, hallway, office, stairwell, restroom area, or outside area.
  • Do not let politeness pressure you into going with them or explaining your decision.
  • Do not hand over your phone, keys, wallet, or ID.
  • Do not move into a doorway, hallway, stairwell, or other less visible area to continue the conversation.
  • Do not go to your car, parking lot, or transit stop alone if you think they may follow you.

What to do now

  1. Stay visible. Use one clear sentence, such as: “No. I’m staying here.” Move toward the busiest staffed area you can reach safely.
  2. Tell staff or security what is happening. Go to a front desk, cashier, bar, host stand, or uniformed employee and say: “I need help. A stranger is trying to get me into a private area and I do not feel safe.”
  3. Stay near other people. Stand in a well-lit, high-traffic area. Ask a nearby person or staff member to stay with you if that helps.
  4. Keep your phone with you. Call or message someone you trust with the venue name and your location if you can do so without delaying your move to a staffed area.
  5. Call 911 if you are in immediate danger or need immediate police, fire, or ambulance assistance. Be ready to give your location, explain what is happening, answer the call-taker’s questions, and follow their instructions. Do not hang up until the call-taker tells you to.
  6. Ask staff for specific help. For example:
    • “Please ask security or a manager to stay with me.”
    • “Please tell this person to stop contacting me.”
    • “Please help me wait in a staffed area.”
    • “Please help me reach a safe pickup point or exit.”
    • “Please record this as an incident.”
  7. Make brief notes only if it is safe. Note the time, a description, and what was said. Ask whether the venue can retain any relevant camera footage. Do not confront the person to gather proof.
  8. Leave from a safe pause. Stay inside a staffed public area until you have a safe way to leave. If you think someone is following you, return to a staffed public area if you can do so safely and call 911 if you are in immediate danger.

What can wait

  • Deciding whether to make a police report or a formal complaint to the venue.
  • Writing a detailed timeline. A few brief notes are enough for now.
  • Contacting a head office or posting online.
  • Deciding whether the stranger meant harm.

Important reassurance

You do not need to work out the stranger’s intentions before staying in a public area and asking for help. Feeling uneasy is enough reason to pause and avoid being isolated.

Scope note

These are first steps to reduce immediate risk and help you reach a safer pause. Later decisions, including reporting or seeking specialist support, may need additional help and do not have to be made now.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, therapeutic, financial, or other professional advice. If you are in immediate danger, prioritize reaching a staffed public area if you can do so safely and call 911.

Additional Resources

Closely connected guides that may be useful during the same situation or its immediate aftermath.

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