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What to do if…
sexual rumours or posts identifying you are spreading online, at work, or in your community

Produced and maintained by PanicStation.org Published: Last reviewed: Editorial policy USA guide

Short answer

Move to a safer, quieter place, stop reading or responding for the moment, and tell one trusted person what is happening. Call 911 if anyone is threatening you, approaching you, sharing your location, or creating an immediate physical danger.

Do not do these things

  • Do not confront the suspected source in person or meet them alone.
  • Do not post an immediate public response while you are overwhelmed.
  • Do not ask people to repost or circulate the material so you can see it.
  • Do not send money, passwords, verification codes, identification, or intimate material in response to threats.
  • Do not delete accounts, wipe devices, resign from work, or leave a community group in panic unless an immediate safety need requires it.
  • Do not force yourself to read every post, message, comment, or reaction.

What to do now

  1. Reach the earliest safe pause. Move away from anyone confronting you, silence notifications, and stay near a trusted person if possible. Call 911 if there is an immediate threat of harm.

  2. Tell one person you trust what is happening. Ask them to stay with you, screen messages, or handle one practical contact so you do not have to manage everything alone.

  3. Reduce further exposure. Use any available controls to limit tags, mentions, messages, location sharing, and who can view your accounts. Change your password and enable two-factor authentication if you think someone may have accessed an account.

  4. If it feels safe and you may want a record later, ask your trusted person to save a limited set of relevant URLs, account names, dates, and screenshots without reposting sexual material.

  5. Use the platform’s available blocking and reporting options for harassment, impersonation, privacy violations, threats, or intimate content. You can ask your trusted person to do this with you or for you.

  6. If this is affecting your workplace, contact one person you choose, such as a supervisor, human resources contact, union representative, or workplace advocate. Say briefly that sexual rumours or identifying posts are affecting your safety or ability to work, and ask what immediate measures are available to limit contact and unnecessary circulation.

  7. If this is happening in a school, organization, faith group, neighborhood group, or other community, contact one trusted safeguarding, leadership, or security person. Ask for one private point of contact and request that the material not be repeated unnecessarily.

  8. Contact RAINN if this is connected to sexual violence, sexual harassment, threats, coercion, or technology-enabled sexual abuse. If intimate images, altered sexual images, recorded sexual material, or sextortion are involved, the Cyber Civil Rights Initiative offers specialized support.

  9. Call or text 988 if you feel unable to stay safe, are thinking about harming yourself, or need immediate emotional support. The 988 Lifeline also supports people who are distressed and need someone to talk to.

What can wait

You do not need to identify everyone involved, answer every claim, decide whether to make a formal complaint, prepare a public statement, leave your job or community, or remove every copy today. Wider conversations and longer-term decisions can wait until you have support and feel less overwhelmed.

Important reassurance

Being targeted by sexual rumours or identifying posts is not your fault. You do not have to confirm, deny, explain, report, or respond publicly before you are ready, and you can deal with one immediate safety step at a time.

Scope note

This guide covers immediate stabilization, safety, and support steps only. Later decisions about workplace procedures, platform escalation, specialist advocacy, law enforcement, or legal options may require help tailored to your circumstances and state.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, mental health, workplace, or other professional advice. Available procedures and services vary, and a confidential advocate can help you understand options without requiring you to make a report.

Additional Resources

Closely connected guides that may be useful during the same situation or its immediate aftermath.

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