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What to do if…
someone repeatedly appears at places you regularly go and you suspect stalking

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Short answer

Move toward other people or a staffed place if the person is nearby, and call 911 if you believe you are in immediate danger. Tell someone you trust what is happening and record the repeated appearances without confronting or following the person.

Do not do these things

  • Do not confront, threaten, follow, or arrange to meet the person.
  • Do not go somewhere isolated to test whether they are following you.
  • Do not travel toward your home if you can safely reach a busy, staffed place instead.
  • Do not post your current location, route, or immediate plans publicly.
  • Do not delete relevant messages, photographs, call records, or notes.
  • Do not try to identify or investigate the person by yourself.
  • Do not pressure yourself to decide immediately whether the behavior legally qualifies as stalking.

What to do now

  1. If the person is nearby, move to a busy, staffed place such as a store counter, security desk, workplace reception area, or police station. Tell a staff member that you feel unsafe. Call 911 if the person is pursuing, threatening, blocking, or approaching you in a way that creates immediate danger.
  2. Contact someone you trust. Share your location and a description of the person and any vehicle. Ask them to stay on the phone, meet you, or help arrange safe transportation.
  3. If you are driving, avoid driving home when you believe the person may be following you. Keep the doors locked, go toward a busy public place or police station if safe, and call 911 if the situation becomes an immediate danger.
  4. Write down each appearance while the details are fresh. Include the date, time, place, what happened, anything said, possible witnesses, and identifying details such as clothing or a vehicle description.
  5. Save relevant messages, voicemails, photographs, social-media contact, and other records when it is safe to do so. Keep copies somewhere the person is unlikely to access.
  6. Tell staff or security at places where the person repeatedly appears, such as your workplace, school, gym, or regular store. Ask them not to disclose your schedule, contact information, or whether you are present.
  7. On a device and account you believe are private, review whether your location or routine is being shared through social media, maps, family accounts, fitness apps, calendars, or other services. Avoid making changes that could place you at greater risk if another person controls or monitors the account.
  8. For necessary trips in the immediate future, consider traveling with someone, arranging a ride, using staffed entrances, and remaining in public areas where practical.
  9. Contact VictimConnect or a local victim-service provider for individual safety planning. You can seek support while you are still unsure what the repeated appearances mean and without committing to a police report.
  10. If you choose to report the incidents and there is no immediate emergency, contact your local police department through its published non-emergency route. Describe the specific repeated behavior and why it causes concern, and ask for the incident or report number if a report is created.

What can wait

You do not need to determine the person’s motive, prove that every encounter was deliberate, or reconstruct every previous incident today. Decisions about moving, changing work or school, contacting the person, or pursuing legal options can wait until you are in a safer place and have support, unless circumstances require an immediate safety response.

Important reassurance

You do not need to be certain that the behavior is stalking before taking reasonable precautions or asking for support. Recording what happened and speaking with an advocate do not commit you to reporting the person or making any particular later decision.

Scope note

This guide covers immediate safety and stabilization only. Later decisions may require support from a victim advocate, attorney, law-enforcement agency, workplace or campus safety office, or another specialist familiar with the relevant state, local, federal, or Tribal jurisdiction.

Important note

This is general safety information, not legal advice or a substitute for emergency or professional support. Stalking definitions, reporting procedures, and available protections vary by jurisdiction. Call 911 if you believe you are in immediate danger.

Additional Resources

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