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What to do if…
you are pressured to stay silent, sign an agreement, or resolve sexual misconduct informally

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Short answer

Do not sign, promise silence, or accept an informal resolution while you feel pressured or unable to make a free decision. Reach a safer private pause, ask for the full proposal and any deadline in writing, and contact an independent specialist support service or legal adviser before responding.

Do not do these things

  • Do not sign or verbally accept an agreement you have not had time to understand.
  • Do not let a meeting, call, or stated deadline force an immediate answer if you can safely pause.
  • Do not rely only on the person or organisation applying pressure to explain your options.
  • Do not meet alone with someone you feel unsafe around.
  • Do not assume that an informal process is automatically voluntary, confidential, or your only option.
  • Do not resign, withdraw a complaint, confront anyone, or make a public statement while feeling rushed or overwhelmed.
  • Do not accept broad assurances about confidentiality without independent advice on the exact wording.

What to do now

  1. Reach the earliest safe pause. Leave the room, end the call, or move away from the person applying pressure if you can do so safely. Call 999 or 112 if you or someone else is in immediate danger.

  2. Give a brief holding response: “I am not agreeing to confidentiality, signing anything, or accepting an informal resolution today. Please send the full proposal and any deadline to me in writing.”

  3. Ask for a complete copy of anything you are being asked to sign or accept. Ask what the proposed process involves, who would take part, what information would be kept confidential, and whether the stated deadline can be extended.

  4. Contact an independent specialist sexual violence service. You can seek support before deciding whether to report to the police, make a formal complaint, or take any other action.

  5. Ask an independent legal adviser to review any proposed agreement before you sign it. In a workplace, education, or membership setting, you could also contact a trade union representative, independent student adviser, professional body adviser, or another advocate who is not involved in applying the pressure.

  6. Ask for safer communication arrangements. These may include written contact, no direct contact from a named person, a remote meeting, breaks, more time to respond, or permission for a supporter to attend.

  7. If you choose and it feels safe, keep existing messages, proposed agreements, and other relevant documents somewhere you control.

  8. If you have been given a deadline, show it to your adviser promptly. Ask the organisation in writing whether it can be extended, without agreeing to the proposal itself.

What can wait

You do not need to decide now whether to accept or reject the proposal, report to the police, make a formal complaint, resign, leave an institution, speak publicly, confront anyone, or begin a long-term legal process. Those decisions can wait while you create space, obtain support, and understand the proposed agreement.

Important reassurance

Feeling shocked, frightened, confused, or unable to process documents under pressure is understandable. You can say that you are not ready to decide and ask for written information, time, safer communication, and independent support. Being offered an informal resolution does not mean you must treat it as your only possible response.

Scope note

This guide covers immediate steps for slowing the situation, creating safety, and reaching independent support. Later employment, education, safeguarding, contractual, regulatory, or legal decisions may require specialist advice for the setting and the part of the UK where this happened.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, therapeutic, employment, safeguarding, or other professional advice. The meaning and effect of an agreement depend on its exact wording, the circumstances, and which UK legal system applies. Seek urgent specialist advice if a deadline may expire soon, and contact emergency services if anyone is in immediate danger.

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